OKAY. THIS IS NOT LIGHT MATERIAL. IT TALKS VERY FRANKLY ABOUT SEX AND PORN. PLEASE DO NOT READ UNLESS YOU ARE 18 OR YOUR LEGAL GUARDIAN HAS GIVEN YOU PERMISSION.
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Contrary to most mouthy female adults, I will not say that porn movies are evil, degrading to women, a destroyer of marriages or something only depraved men watch. Porn can be a healthy part of anyone's life and can even enhance sexual relationships. The statement "porn is degrading to women" grates on my nerves for several reasons: 1. not only women are in porn movies 2. The people in porn movies fully understand what they're getting themselves into before agreeing to be in the movie. 3. Most people in porn movies are not forced or coerced into being in these movies--it's probably lower than the number of people who are forced or coerced into things in everday life.
Like anything, porn can be misused or misinterpreted. However, porn should not be blamed for problems that have more to do with the person watching the porn than they do the porn itself. Blaming porn for the break up of the marriage is just like blaming the woman your husband was cheating with for the break-up of the marriage.
The problem with porn in relationships comes when there is an addiction, when the people in the relationship disagree on the use of porn, or when the use of porn is concealed from the other partner. Notice that we could easily replace the word "porn" in the previous setence with the word "alcohol" or "drugs" or "food". Relationships are not broken because of porn or food or alcohol but because of someone's choices regarding those things.
However, there is an inherent problem with porn, and that is that porn can set up unrealistic expectations for a sexual encounter. So, I present to you, "Auntie Vo0's guide for people who watch porn but have never had sex before."
1.No, your boobs or your partner's boobs are not going to be "porn star big". Most people enjoy the natural girls better anyways, even if they are a little "small".
2. No, your penis or your partner's penis is not going to be "porn star long". Trust me, your partner won't care, and if they dump you based on your penis size, then they weren't worth your time anyways. Actually, the average person who thinks they want a huge "Ron Jeremy" penis would be in for a rude awakening if they actually got it.... which leads me to #3
3. No, your partner will not be able to fit something half that large into any orifice. The people in these movies have been having sex on camera for a long time. As a result, thier bodies have stretched beyond the amount that a normal person's orifices would stretch.
4. No, neither your or your partner will last that long. Porn stars are porn stars because they have the ability to screw all day long without wearing the hell out. Not to mention, particularly long scenes tend to have cuts in them where the actors got off before they were supposed too, etc.
5. No, arching your back into a "c" shape, pouting your lips, making ridiculous faces, and saying "give it to me" repeatedly are not sexy to anyone in the real world.
6. No, it is not a good idea to ignore safer sex methods or "sanitary sense" when engaging in sexual activity. This could be a whole book unto itself, so I won't go into detail.
7. Yes, you will have fun.
(any additions to the list are welcome. leave them in comments)
This is where I should go into the book about how sex is a special thing and should not be entered into lightly, etc. But that's a really long book. So, I will suffice it to say that most people feel that sex is better in a commited, loving, relationship such as marriage.
3 comments:
What lots of people don't know is also that the female porn stars (and the male ones in gayporn) gets pain killing shots in their rectum so they can handle the anal sex.
Most of the times I just find the sex (the lesbian mvoies) interesting at all, 'cause it doesn't look like that when 2 women have sex, it's just men who thinks that's what lesbian sex is all about.
Also, for those who are just starting to have sex:
1.) Boobs are not pieces of dough, most women are very sensitive and just like you don't want your balls to be handled like pieces of dough, neither do we.
2.)We're also quite sensitive between our legs, don't use your fingers like you're trying to rub off our skin, be gentle and ask us how we like it, in case you don't understand, ask us to show you.
3.) It's tiring as hell giving head, sure I know you need the up-and-down-motions but don't forget that we have jaws and a throat (no it's not nice to have a penis shoved down your throat, if you need it there, ask the girl to do it herself, so she can avoid throwing up when you hit the gag reflex).
4.) For the love of god, don't forget the thing called forplay.
ah fabulous additions, thank you. Acutally, I had thought about the whole "grabbing the back of the head and pushing" during oral sex thing, but forgot to put it in there. I'll also add to that that just because porn stars don't seem to mind choking and sputtering doesn't mean everyone is htat way. (I've seen some where the girl triggered her own gag reflex and just kept going and kept triggering it...)
Hey there - followed the link from your thread at F'opolis. [I'm beatnik, hi!]
Lots of valid points, I don't think I disagree with anything said. Off to read your other linked post!
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